Handjobs can be so deceiving. At first glance, they seem pretty easy and straightforward, but when you actually try to do it, it’s really difficult and it can get so awkward. You’re never sure of what you’re supposed to do with your fingers, you get super paranoid about tugging and gripping the penis too hard, and also, there’s the fact that most guys get super critical about giving handjobs the right way.
Since most guys already know how to give themselves the perfect handjob, it’s hard to live up to their expectations, and that already puts women at a major disadvantage. However, the main reason why so many ladies fail to get it right is because they’re just not aware of what they’re doing wrong. I know that there are already tons of guides out there on how to do it well, but at the same time, you have to keep in mind that every guy is different. What feels good to one person might feel like torture to another, so regardless of your experience level, it takes a lot of exploring and practice to figure out what works best for that particular guy.
If you feel like you’ve got some brushing up to do or you just need some guidance, check out this list of 12 unofficial rules to follow when you’re giving a guy a handjob.
1. Don’t be afraid to ask him what feels good.
A lot of guys are hesitant to offer guidance or tell you upfront that they want you to do something differently (most likely because they don’t want you to feel bad). But remember: Hanjobs are supposed to feel good and the goal is to get them aroused. So if you sense that they’re not enjoying it or you feel like you’re not getting any response, don’t be afraid to let them guide you.
2. Keep a damp cloth or some tissues handy.
Handjobs are seriously messy. You can expect to see bodily fluids, gunks of lube, and strands pubic hair laying around, so when you’re done, it helps to have a few tissues or pieces of cloth nearby to wipe your hands and clean the mess up.
3. Never skip the lubricant.
Even if a handjob happens in the spur of the moment, you can use hand lotion or, believe it or not, saliva. They’re not exactly the best substitutes, but it’s much better than using nothing. Doing it dry could actually cause the penis to get irritated and sore.
4. Mix things up a little.
Make sure to add some variety to your technique and feel free to explore. Don’t just stick to one spot the whole time.
5. Look enthusiastic while you’re doing it.
Your facial expression during a handjob will affect your guy’s mood and ability to actually get aroused, so if you look extremely bored while you’re doing it, you’re only killing the vibe. Try your best to be enthusiastic.
6. Don’t stay silent.
Silence during a handjob is so awkward. I mean, you don’t necessarily have to start a full conversation or try to talk their heads off. Just a little bit of whispering and dirty talk will go a long way.
7. Do not try to multitask. Focus only on him.
No, it is not okay to talk on the phone, text, eat snacks, watch Netflix, or pet your dog while you absentmindedly give a handjob. It’s just humiliating and really inconsiderate. Focus only on him and make him feel special.
8. Don’t yank anything.
No yanking or tugging unless he specifically tells you that he’s okay with it! Being too rough with the penis can be pretty painful, so just be gentle. Start slow with light touches and strokes, or just gently massage it.
9. Don’t grip the penis too tightly.
The penis is not meant to be held in a death grip or squeezed too tightly. Remember, you’re trying to make him feel good, not torture him.
10. Don’t grip it too loosely either.
Having a grip that’s too slack is almost just as bad as gripping the penis too tightly. I mean, for guys it basically feels like having lifeless and limp hand on their penis, which is not exciting at all. Put some effort into it.
11. If you have longer nails, be extra careful.
To be perfectly honest, it would be a lot safer to do a handjob without long nails. You wouldn’t have to worry about poking or scratching them. But at the same time, this doesn’t mean that it’s impossible to give handjobs while having long nails. You just have to go really slow and be extra gentle.
12. Don’t wear any rings.
Rings can get caught up in pubic hair and lead to extra tugging. It can also scratch the skin and get pretty painful, so don’t wear any rings!
What do you think of these rules? Would you add any to the list? Tell us in the comments below!
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